We all know how easy it is to make excuses. We make excuses as to why we don’t take care of ourselves or prioritize self-love; why we don’t go after that goal or make positive changes in our life. We say we are too crazy at work, the kids are driving me insane, or life is just simply too busy. We may worry what others will think – even what our partners will think. We say we don’t have the money. Trust me, I know them all because I’ve used them all – it’s safe to stay within our comfort zones.
Let me squash some top excuses I hear from women as to why they can’t book that boudoir experience they KNOW they want!
“I don’t have enough time for myself.”
It’s important to remember that if you aren’t taking care of yourself mentally or physically, it’s going to make it nearly impossible to care for the others in your life. It takes a conscious effort to slow down, breathe and clear your head.
At a boudoir shoot, you are given full permission to be “selfish” for a few hours. You can relax, release responsibilities, allow yourself to be pampered, and simply feel like a woman again for a while.
Additionally, the process enables you to see where your beauty and unique shine comes from – all the aspects of your energy and personality that make you who you are. Think of how energized you could be if you were able to stop allotting mental energy to those negative comparison thoughts in your head!
Prioritize ONE day for yourself so that you can return home feeling like the best partner/mother/sister/daughter/friend you can be and sprinkle that positive energy like stardust, baby.
“I am not where I want to be weight-wise/I don’t fit the media’s standard of a ‘good body.'”
Did you know that the body type portrayed in advertising as the “ideal” is possessed naturally by only about 5% of American females? ONLY FIVE PERCENT.
I will ask this over and over again (and sorry if you’ve heard me say it before), but WHY are we taught that you have to be a certain size to feel VALUABLE?
WHY do you have to fit a stranger’s distorted idea of a perfect body to accept your own?
WHY are you comparing yourself to everyone, when no two women are the same?
If only I could keep track of the number of times I’ve had a woman in my studio mention a part of her body that she is really self-conscious of, or a part she’s ashamed of, or something about it she can’t stand, for me to then think of all the women I know who would immediately be shocked and dismayed at these comments, seeing this beautiful human standing in front of me. For everything you don’t like about yourself, there’s 10 women who wish they had it.
It’s amazing to have achievable goals and want to feel your best, but that doesn’t mean you should hate your body while working towards them. Be proud of where you are so that you can be proud of where you’re going.
Take the first step (or second, or third) towards body acceptance and body neutrality with a boudoir shoot.
“I never feel sexy or sensual anymore so a boudoir shoot must not be for me.”
Nope – that’s actually one of the top reasons why you SHOULD experience boudoir.
We often lose touch with our femininity or sexuality when there are big life changes such as health, children, or work. It happens to almost everyone and is totally normal. We go through phases of life and we’re not always going to feel like a 20-year-old s*x kitten!
Getting in touch with your body again in the current phase of your life is accomplished quite well via boudoir. I can help you find that spark within yourself again and show you that the goddess inside never left you.
Another thing to remember is that you don’t have to wear little-to-no clothing or lingerie for a boudoir shoot. If you feel that this truly is not in line with your personality, there are many other outfit ideas. One of the biggest things for me is authenticity, so we make sure the shoot feels like YOU (even if you haven’t seen ‘her’ in a while).
“A boudoir shoot is an investment and I don’t have all the money right now.”
Yes, a boudoir shoot IS an investment. But think about what the word “investment” means…you’re spending the money to acquire something that will bring you value in the future. So you’re literally investing in the confidence and well-being of your future self with an experience like this.
Future you will thank you for not only creating artwork that will live forever, but prioritizing your own happiness to create a ripple effect in your life that will pay out huge dividends.
In addition, we do offer interest-free payment plans to help make the investment more manageable – so you can spread out the purchase of your images and artwork for up to 6 months after your session. Just ask me about financing options when setting up your own shoot!
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